Mara, when will I meet my Soul Mate? Will I ever get married?

My heart goes out to anyone asking those questions, even when the same client asks me more than once.

Yes, no, I don’t know, next Thursday…this is a destiny path that changes radically and frequently based on all the choices we make and how quickly (or slowly) we are growing.

One of the most common answers I receive for my clients is that they have personal work to do first. It may be that the type of person they would attract at the moment would not be the healthiest or emotionally available. Perhaps they haven’t cleaned up the debris of past relationships, or need to work on health issues first, or are avoiding job problems by focusing on the pain of being single. Maybe they would benefit from learning how to be alone with themselves.

Do you take shamanic journeys? If so, go spend time with your helping spirits or power animal and ask for healing around this subject. What ideas can they give you to up the odds of you coming into romantic relationship with a worthy partner? Is there unfinished business from previous relationships to address? Do you need to extract the toxic marriage pattern that your parents passed down to you? Does your idea of who YOU are reflect truth or are you seeing yourself in a warped mirror?

If you don’t journey, try this: go find a tree, boulder, river, some place in nature where you can be still and connect with the Earth. Sit comfortably with your back against the tree or boulder, or your feet dangling in the river. Invite your protectors to come in and hold you in Sacred Space.

Breathe deeply and sink your roots into the ground. Open your crown and imagine your branches reach up into the sky. Ask for help, for clarity and guidance. Then listen.

You’ll hear wisdom, truth and perhaps reconnect to hope. Give thanks before leaving.

Then go find some friends and spend time with them. Enjoy the people you already have in your life. Let them reflect back to you how you contribute to their lives even as you contribute to theirs. And let everyone know you are looking, you are available, and you are ready.